Good luck...we still haven't found the happy medium. Family of 4 and two dogs.
My wife spent 10+ years as an Outward Bound instructor and still leads trips for other org's. I lived in a tent for a loooong time. We have a mega mid, a TNF 4 person backpacking tent, an MSR fly, an Snowpeak fly, a modified Big Agnes 3 forks, a Marmot 6 person, and just retired an older 4 season 3 person. No tent is right for all situations and I actually prefer to not have one at all. I leave the fam in the tent and sleep on my cot under the stars unless it is raining, which is where the fly comes in. Mosquitoes are a whole other wrinkle.