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Old 03-05-2010   #1
 
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Getting the wife on board.

I've been kayaking for awhile and I am now looking at adding a raft to the fleet. However, I am hitting a little hickup and having trouble convincing the wife. How did you pull it off? Any advice for me?

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don't start with the eagle, thats for sure. the upper colorado is a good beginer float and I would strongly recomend a friend or two to help coax her along the way. My wife knows me all too well to trust me, so i let my friends guide her and let her open up to it that way. we now have a good trust on the river, not to say we wont flip the raft or she will swim in her kayak, but it took the opinions of others to make it enjoyable. Don't push her, and be open to her thoughts even if you dont mind them.

I would gladly take you folks out on the rio this spring and let the woman talk, sometimes that is all it takes to build confidence. My wife now inspires others, i never thought i'd see the day. be patient and take 'er easy. groups work best, and we are all a little aprehensive at first.
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Whatever it is, don't try to teach her yourself.
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Just bring one home, it will work itself out one way or another! I have the perfect setup for you right here in Eagle. I will even give lessons and deliver the boat.
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Good for kids.

It will be great to have if you ever plan on having kids.

Other than that Bob really nailed it. Find other couples to paddle with.

Take a raft trip with the wife (something low key and prestine); Eat along the river, have some beers, enjoy the entire trip(make sure she is never cold on the trip). Sell her on it by living it and not just explaining your desire to own a raft.

Rafting is not going anywhere. You can get into it at anytime, and you are not missing out on anything by waiting (days, weeks, months) to buy a raft. There's no rush. If you buy it on her terms than you'll share it for life. If you force it on her (just show up with one). It will always be the other women, and don't expect a bunch of fun river trips in the future.

Work it right and you will make it happen.
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Maybe kayak a whole shit ton more. If you kayak all the time and you are never home then you can say to your wife, "Let's get a raft so we can be on the river together". If she really wants to be with you then the idea will sound great to her.

Or...

Take her kayaking and get her in over her head. Then say, "You know, rafting is a whole lot mellower. Maybe we should get a raft and do some desert floats."

I used a combo of these 2 methods and it worked great.
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Whatever it is, don't try to teach her yourself.
Best advice ever.
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Maybe kayak a whole shit ton more. If you kayak all the time and you are never home then you can say to your wife, "Let's get a raft so we can be on the river together". If she really wants to be with you then the idea will sound great to her.

Or...

Take her kayaking and get her in over her head. Then say, "You know, rafting is a whole lot mellower. Maybe we should get a raft and do some desert floats."

I used a combo of these 2 methods and it worked great.
Ditto.
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