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Old 11-22-2012   #21
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It can be. Get your ass to a strip joint. Strippers can be very good listeners and are very effective at stroking your ego(among other things). That'll help get your self confidence back to a healthy level. Take lots of single dollar bills as this form of therapy can be costly.

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Old 11-22-2012   #22
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Oh geez Squeaky, we all have had our hearts broken. It is a part of life. It sucks. It hurts. It ruins your life (for a while) but you'll heal with time and eventually you'll wonder why you were so stuck on her to begin with. Dwelling on in and feeling sorry for yourself ain't going to help.

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Old 11-22-2012   #23
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Jennifer's right. It helps you develop a keener sense for who is the right person for us. We have all been attracted to a soul sucker at one time or another. Learn and find someone better.
"Yesterday I was clever and tried to change the world. Today I am wise and try to change myself." -Rumi
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Old 11-22-2012   #24
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Do planned acts of kindness
Be grateful for physical health, education, job, a place to live
Be patient with folks...everyone has a story and struggles
Volunteer for SAR, animal shelter, or what ever your interests
Know that this is an opportunity to reinvent yourself
Everything is possible
"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans"
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Old 11-22-2012   #25
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1. Break off contact with her. Make sure you unfriend her on Facebook. Get rid of old letters, photos, momentos, etc.
2. Start a process of forgiveness, first with yourself, then with her. I have found this to be very helpful: Ho
3. Take the time it needs. Sometimes it takes longer than you think it "should".
4. Do the things you love, and find new things you love.
5. Know that you will heal and there will be another.

It sucks getting hurt. I've been there before and feel I am a better man for it...

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Old 11-22-2012   #26
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I am trying to work on those steps. It is hard to remove her from my life though. She is one of the best boaters around and I am always seeing video of her or hearing about her from friends. It makes me wish I could move to a different state.

When I look at it from a third person view, it is easy to say oh, just get over her. But, here I am with what should be one of the happiest times in my life (I have internet start-up that will be live soon (, I am doing well in school, living in a kayaking mecca) and all i feel is pain when I wake up because I know she didn't want me.
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Went through the same thing man. Seven years... I have alot more time to fish and boat now. Chicks are crazy. My advice is get some angry johnny albums, large pickle jar and formaline, chainsaw and lots of whiskey. The answer will come to you.

PS Ladies I am single and willing to be your next mistake. PM me.
"A true patriot must always be prepared to defind his country against its government." Edward Abbey
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Old 11-22-2012   #28
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I wish I could resort to Whiskey. I go off the deep end when I drink now. No good.

Good tunes though!
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Old 11-22-2012   #29
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I have been divorced 4 times and still trying to figure this shit out too. I'am here for you also, along with the other Buzzards. Keep it real.
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Old 11-22-2012   #30
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Thanks all. It certainly helps knowing others got through the same thing.

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