sad, sad news. there is no easy way to deal with something like this, you just have to grit it and move on. condolences to the family and to you as well, im sure writing that was really difficult. that is a big waterfall, and anytime you mess with something like that you are walking a very fine line.
just for clarification for those of us still wondering, who was it? and was the flow too high or is it a good level right now?
"Don't f$&@ing eddy out, just run it! Whaddya doin??" -LMyers